We Don’t Need to Talk About COVID All of the Time.

As the pandemic continues to permeate every aspect of our lives, our conversations may start to feel like they’re getting stale and repetitive – if not anxiety-inducing.

While there’s no denying that staying informed is important, it seems that as our social calendars empty out, our chats with family and friends always reset to our new default: COVID-19. What are some ideas of how to spice up our conversations.

Connect with Intent

There’s a difference between talking about the present COVID-19 situation, the case numbers, social distancing restrictions, the health and economic impacts, and how people are feeling. That’s because the latter takes the conversation away from uncertainty and fear, and towards questions that people can answer.

 Ask intentional questions that don’t allow for a yes or no answer. Ask “how is your head feeling” or “how is your heart feeling right now?” You could also try “what’s working well for you right now?” as a way to change the energy from negative to positive.

Prepare Conversation Topics

Sometimes we have to take responsibility and lead the conversation, so arm yourself with topics completely unrelated to COVID-19. Talk about the latest episode of MasterChef, or how good the weather is. In reality, anything other than the latest infection rate from the CDC.

Pop culture is a terrific conversation starter, so begin by discussing what you’re reading and watching. We’re also in the kitchen more, so discuss the latest recipes you’ve tried. Or look to exercise, and ask what style of workouts someone is doing or trails they’re walking. You can also bring up some of the fun social media memes or viral stories you’ve seen. Memes related to the coronavirus and self-isolation are exploding online, much to the joy of social media users.

Anna Musson, etiquette expert at Good Manners, says it’s okay to be direct about changing the subject: “When [COVID-19] does come up, steer the conversation towards something else and if you can, sweetly mention that you’re taking a break from talking about it for an hour.”

Ask Questions the Right Way

As I said earlier, avoid questions with “yes” or “no” answers and focus on open questions, which involve words such as how, where, when or what were your thoughts.

When you bring up a topic, make sure you have follow-up questions to let the conversation continue to flow. For example, with MasterChef, don’t simply ask someone if they’re watching it. Ask what they thought of the latest episode, the challenge, the winner, the funny moments.

Don’t just ask the one question, go to the second and third question because that’s how you build the conversation. Otherwise you go back to ‘so how’s COVID-19?

Still Feeling Down? Try These Tricks to Boost Your Mood.

Be curious! Provide a space for someone to get out of the present and dream about the future. One way to do this is by asking reflective questions about what they’ve actually enjoyed about this period of isolation, such as, “What do you want to keep when things go back to normal, what will you reinstate from our past lives, and what will you not do again?”

Challenge yourself! Challenge yourself to not talk about the coronavirus crisis. Start with a day, then two, then aim for a whole week. Try a week of not talking about COVID-19. Tell everybody you meet you don’t want to talk about it and try these techniques instead… And see how your energy levels go.

Still, let people vent. In your attempts to change your conversations, accept that some people will still feel a need to share their sorrow or concerns. Though you may be ready to talk about everything else but COVID-19, some people may need to vent. It’s important to create a safe space for them to do that.

  • Sturgeon Bay Blessing Boxes – there are little blessing boxes around Sturgeon Bay that have non-perishable food items and personal care items available for free. Just walk up and take what you need. Here is a map of blessing box locations. Sturgeon Bay Blessing Boxes
  • Affordable Preventative Vet Pop Up Clinic – For dogs and cats — Microchipping, vaccinations, testing & deworming, heartworm prevention, flea & tick medications are available at Tractor Supply in Sturgeon Bay through PetVet at very reasonable pricing. see full details on the PetVet website.

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